Let’s discuss Soul Ties in the Bible to guide us to forge relationships that are Christ-centered and how to get rid of those ties that corrupt the soul.
Relationships come and go. The depth of how we connect with someone can sometimes be beyond our control as emotions can readily get the best of us. In moments where we feel entangled with someone so deep, should we be alarmed?
At what point do our relationships establish soul ties? What are soul ties? As Christians, our souls should first be tied with Christ before anything or anyone else – no one and nothing should come before Christ. Find out what the Bible says about soul ties and how should Christians see soul ties.
What are Soul Ties in the Bible?
The idea of soul ties has been used to explain an attachment to someone that goes beyond the physical – a connection on a deeper level. Biblically speaking, soul ties are often linked with either sexual relationships between a husband and wife or a close relationship with someone dear to the heart.
Are soul ties biblical?
To put it outrightly, no. There is no known direct mention of the word “soul ties” in the Bible.
However, many have correlated soul ties with several scenarios and set of words in the scriptures like “become one flesh” and “knit with the soul of”. Soul ties, therefore, are words coined by people and used to relate to biblical scenarios to put into words a strong feeling of connection to someone that surpasses the physical realm. It has no known biblical foundations.
What Does the Bible Say About Soul Ties?
While there is no mention of such words in the verses of the Bible, the scriptures did say something about being careful with establishing strong bonds with people.
In Proverbs 1:10, we are reminded of how relationships can lead us to sin. Human as we are, we are not immune to feeling strong emotions towards someone which can sometimes lead us astray and straight to the snares of sin. This is a reminder that relationships built upon enticements such as lust and other sinful temptations go against the teachings of the Bible which stresses that relationships should be built in light of pure intentions.
Who Had Soul Ties in the Bible?
Soul ties may not have a biblical basis but when the topic hangs in the air, two biblical relationships come to mind: David and Jonathan and Shechem’s Dinah. Two relationships are claimed by many to exhibit soul ties but the foundations in which their connections were founded speak differently.
Jonathan and David
“As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” – 1 Samuel 18:1
The scriptures speak of David and Jonathan’s “soul tie”, as an exemplification of a great friendship. Jonathan went to tremendous measures to keep David safe from his father King Saul, and David took care of Jonathan’s children long after he died.
Perhaps, this goes to prove that what we call a soul tie is not confined to romantic relationships between a man and woman. Theirs was a brotherly love – one that deeply cares for one another. It was undoubtedly blessed by the Holy Spirit as it helped fulfill God’s purpose in David’s life.
Bible scholars claim that it was among the greatest friendships found in the scripture. There was loyalty as Jonathan remained loyal to David despite having his life threatened. The deep connection these two men shared defied the odds.
Jonathan, being the son of King Saul, should have felt threatened by David and David’s rivalry with his father as it may affect his succession to the throne. Yet he did not. In this world, where most people are inclined to go the extra mile to gain wealth and material possessions, Jonathan went the other way. He kept his covenant with his friend David.
Shechem and Dinah
Now, the Bible also speaks of another story and an entirely different type of soul tie as shown in the lives of Shechem and Dinah.
In Genesis 34:2-3, we read “When Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, the ruler of that area, saw her, he took her and raped her. His heart was drawn to Dinah daughter of Jacob; he loved the young woman and spoke tenderly to her.“
Without a doubt, this speaks of a deep connection, we are so fond to call “soul ties”. However, unlike that of David and Jonathan, it caused Shechem to sin and commit an ungodly act toward Dinah.
Rape was how Shechem responded. Rape is a sin. Several Bible verses such as those in Deuteronomy 22:23-29, address the issue. Anything that is from God is good. If a relationship with someone causes you to sin and commit adultery, that relationship is not coming from our Lord.
Soul ties, then, can be an avenue for sins. People can be so blinded by the deep and intense emotions and connections they feel towards another person that they can forget and put aside the Word of God, and sin in the process.
Evaluating Soul Ties in the Bible: Godly or Ungodly?
Now, we ask, are soul ties godly? Or are they not?
A soul tie is a term we use in an attempt to encapsulate a connection that is rooted on the spiritual level. As temples of the Living God, we ought to establish ties that are built on Christian values, pure intentions, and following the word of God. Any ties that go against God, lead to sin and need to be cut off. That being said, we and our bodies, which are temples of God should not be violated in any way when we establish soul ties. For instance, a marriage between a husband and wife is considered a godly soul tie by several Bible scholars and should be built under the teachings of Christ and in no way become an avenue for adulterous acts.
Be very careful though in establishing ties, as our God is a jealous god. Our souls must first be tied with the Holy Spirit before anything else. There should never be relationships in our lives that are deeper than what we have with God. As sin severs relationships with God, soul ties should never tolerate it.
Godly soul ties are those that are formed by God, with God, and for God.
How Should Christians View Soul Ties?
Christians can forge a myriad of relationships – with a friend, family, special someone, and even with strangers. These relationships can vary in intensity and they can be fleeting or last a lifetime. As Christians, however, our idea of a soul tie should revolve around the author of relationships, the maker or breaker of ties – Jesus Christ.
The ultimate soul tie we, Christians, shall aim for should be that with Christ – for we are His and He is ours. Neither a person nor material wealth should come before God in our relationship ladder. If there currently is, break free right away before it corrupts you.
From a Christian point of view, soul ties should be anchored in God and promote the teachings of God. We can be defined by the kind of ties we have with others. Is it healthy? Toxic? Does it make you sin? It is crucial then that Christians know to distinguish between ties with others that should be kept and those that need to be cut.
How to Break Free from a Soul Tie Biblically?
To break free from an unfulfilling soul tie is not a smooth sail. Regardless, it remains a must. Here are ways on how a Christian shout get rid of soul ties:
The first thing a Christian must do: is repent. Repentance is a prerequisite to forgiveness. Our God is forgiving, ever merciful, and ever-loving. Transgressions and disobedience done within the bounds of a soul tie with someone should be acknowledged, corrected, and repented.
One can never completely break free from an unfulfilling soul tie if the sins are not atoned for as it will keep haunting one down and isolate him/her from God due to guilt. Peace with God and with ourselves can only be restored once we acknowledge where we went wrong.
However, repentance is more than just the acknowledgment of sins. It is also the correction of the sins committed and the going back to the ways of God. Repentance is not an overnight process but we take confidence in one of the most powerful Bible verses on forgiveness (Daniel 9:9).
A soul tie is not always happy and dreamy but can also cause heartaches and scars. To ask God for forgiveness is one thing but to forgive those who wronged you is another thing. Let’s face the truth, forgiving can be hard at times.
A soul tie can never be completely cut off once strong emotions such as anger and hatred continue to reside in one’s heart. The wounds won’t heal if we keep holding on to the things that scarred us. If we, sinners ourselves, ask the Lord Jesus Christ for forgiveness, who are we not to forgive?
In the Bible, in Ephesians 4:32, we are reminded to “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Damaged souls, severed ties, and hurting spirits will continue to linger once we hold off total surrender to the God of Peace who offers justice to all according to His divine plans.
Forgiving others may be hard, but the power of God is made perfect in our weaknesses and hardships.
Starting anew? Best to do it with God. After walking down the aisles of darkness what better way to start anew than walk with the Source of Light?
Starting again with God and turning away from the sins of yesterday is not without challenges and adjustments but knowing that you are going down the road with Jesus Christ makes it possible. Not easy. But possible.
With the lessons of the past and with the guidance of the Lord, we find hope in a better tomorrow. One where we as believers of His great and redeeming love for us, learn to establish relationships rooted in the teachings of the Scripture and to completely turn our backs away from corrupt ties and relationships.
Soul ties may not have any biblical foundations, but soul ties, however and whatever one may choose to define them, is a dynamic and powerful connection towards someone. It can make or break a person as bad relationships can corrupt souls.
As Christians, we ought to establish a spiritual relationship with Jesus Christ before others as there is no other way of knowing how deep can one’s love go without looking at the cross where the body of the Son of God dripped with blood out of His great and forbearing love for sinners.
Soul ties apart from God corrupt the soul but one that is built on the knowledge of a God whose love for sinners like you and me surpasses human understanding and cannot be encapsulated in words, these ties build and replenish the soul.
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