Soul Ties: Signs, Symptoms & How to Break them

Soul ties can be very uplifting when they are mutual, healthy, and godly. Soul ties are not limited to couples but can form with friends, family, and your social group.

We’ve been in relationships where some connections are more profound than others. These deep connections are known as soul ties. We can have soul ties with anyone, be it our friends, family, or current partner. They do not have to stem from romantic relations; our time and emotions are all we need to contribute.

There’s a large misconception about soul ties and sex. Even though sex can strengthen soul ties, it’s not the only way to form this type of deep connection. We hope to enlighten you on the different ways you can create a soul tie with someone through this article. Most of us may already have one yet; we’re not aware because of this misconception. We’ve covered everything, from what soul ties are to how you can break soul ties that aren’t healthy for you.

What are Soul Ties?

Soul ties refer to a really deep connection between two people. This type of connection may stem from being intimate with that person. Others may form a soul tie with people who exhibit a significant role in your life and have greatly influenced your life for such a long time. With this in mind, it is possible to have soul ties with people you aren’t romantically involved with.

Soul Ties vs. Soulmates

Soul ties and soulmates are two different deep connections we can have with a person. A soul tie can arise from having sex with another person. So, let’s say someone has been sexually intimate with all their partners; it is possible to have more than one soul tie. Soul ties also take time to form. Unlike soulmates, the connection forms over some time.

Soulmates are the embodiment of love and partnership. It is the immediate connection you have with someone who can teach and push you to be the best person you can be. Like soul ties, your soulmate doesn’t necessarily have to be your romantic partner.

Are Soul Ties one-sided?

Much like all relationships, soul ties could also be one-sided. Especially now, with the rise of making a connection through the internet, it is likely possible to have a soul tie that isn’t mutual. As painful as that may sound, we have to be open to the possibility that we all view each other differently. Our interpretation of that person’s actions may not be the true intention of the other.

As excellent as having a soul tie sound, it can be very unhealthy, especially for one-sided soul ties. Once you’ve identified that it’s not mutual, try to break the bond as soon as possible to save yourself the trouble.

How Do Men Handle Soul Ties?

Men express their emotions very differently from women, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t prone to soul ties. All relationships that cause you to invest your time and emotions are bound to result in soul ties. Men can have a soul tie; however, there will be a difference in how they express the effects of that soul tie.

We all have different love languages and approaches to relationships. It is a known fact that men lean more on the logical side while women contribute to the emotional side of the relationship.

For soul ties to be godly and healthy, it all comes down to communication. Take the time to really know about that person. Just because one party is very vocal and showy about their feelings, you cannot assume that the other would follow. In doing so, you prevent miscommunications and misunderstandings.

Are Soul Ties Mentioned in the Bible?

Soul ties are often a connection so strong; it’s almost like you’re obsessed with the other person. However solid and beneficial the bond may be, there are no specific mentions of soul ties in the Bible. But the Scripture does mention some form of connections that may be similar to soul ties. 1 Samuel 18:1 gives a glimpse of the depth of David and Jonathan’s close friendship.

The Bible also gave warnings against ungodly relationships; one example would be from Proverbs 1:10-15. The passage warns us of people that seek to take advantage of individuals for their gain. Another example is from 1 Corinthians 6:16-19, which alerts us not to take sexual immorality lightly. Further, this passage reminds us of our unity with the Lord and that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. Therefore, we should honor the Lord with our bodies.

Signs You Have Soul Ties With Another Person

You connect on a deeper level

Having soul ties allow you to connect with that person on a deeper level. You feel a strong spiritual and emotional bond with someone; it’s like you know exactly what they’re feeling. There are even accounts where you suddenly feel unwell, and your mind and heart know the pain you’re feeling is connected. This type of connection can come from both good and bad relationships.

They bring out strong reactions from you

Almost all soul ties have exhibited intensity that causes the people involved to have amplified emotions. Whether strong feelings are for good or bad depends solely on the person. For example, some may choose to project their passion for another through their work and studies. It can be a great source of motivation and a boost of confidence to try something new. However, others may not be wise enough to practice this. Because of your connection, it is possible that if they are angry, you would be furious as well.

You can’t stop thinking about them

Again, this symptom may come from both good and bad relationships. Sometimes you could find yourself thinking of that person 24/7, and everything around you seems to remind you of that person. This symptom becomes unhealthy when all you think about is the other person and hinders you from doing anything else.

A part of you feels incomplete when they’re not in your life

This symptom is what makes soul ties unhealthy. There comes a time when you feel like no one else understands you better than the other person. It’s like they are the only ones that understand what you truly feel. You feel anxious and emotionally unstable whenever they aren’t around. To you, that person completes you.

If you come to this point in your relationship, you should take a step back and evaluate the relationship. Have you become too dependent on the other person, or have they exhibited traits that make you think you need to be dependent on them.

Different Types of Soul Ties

Spiritual Soul Ties

We form spiritual soul ties with the people that have helped us with our spiritual journey towards Christ. This type of soul tie is usually healthy. It comes from two people brought together in Christ. Through this bond, you share wisdom and knowledge that can help in your spiritual journey. This type of soul tie is very beneficial, especially when you’re experiencing hardships throughout your journey.

But like all soul ties, this type can get unhealthy as well. It may seem that they empathize with you and share your intense passion, only to find out at the end that they only want to use you for their gain.

Emotional Soul Ties

Emotional soul ties are often between close friends. We can have multiple soul ties, especially when we have more than one friend that we closely confide in. We all have one to three friends we run to for everything. This type of soul tie is exhibited through the feeling of familiarity and comfort, baring your heart to that person.

Healthy and godly emotional soul ties encourage, protect and guide you through hard times. We often see examples of this through the people we consider as our true friends. The counterparts through emotional manipulation. This prevents you from leaving and moving on from the friendship.

Physical Soul Ties

Physical soul ties can result from the consummation of your marriage. Sexual intimacy is one of the known causes of soul ties, either inside or outside marriage. But they don’t only come from your partners but also family members. Let’s all be honest; we can name a few of our relatives with whom we’re close. We are likely to form physical soul ties with these people because we express love and affection towards them.

When the reason for your affection is no longer healthy, it is best to cut ties and move on. There are a lot of instances where physical intimacy is used, as a form of manipulation, to keep the other person from leaving.

Social Soul Ties

Did you know that social soul ties can be formed through shared social groups? More so now, during the pandemic, all our communications are through the internet. Whether you like to keep to yourself or not, we can all form social soul ties. Like all types of soul ties, this can either be good or bad for us. Social groups that genuinely aim to help their members be the best version of themselves will likely form healthy social soul ties.

Unhealthy social groups will also result in unhealthy social soul ties. One example of this is hate groups, where they have a plan to create division and chaos between members.

When Do Soul Ties Become Bad For You?

Ungodly and Godly Soul Ties

Ungodly and godly soul ties can stem from your partner, friends, family, higher authorities, and religious leaders. However, what makes them different is sacred soul ties bring fellow believers together in the Lord. Any relationship which puts a continuous effort to place God at the center is godly.

All acts that take either of the parties away from God are ungodly soul ties. Ungodly soul ties take your focus away from God’s plan and empower personal gratification instead.

Unhealthy and Healthy Soul Ties

Healthy soul ties help you grow and become a better person. These bonds encourage you to strive for what is good and right. They protect and warn you from the possible harm your actions may cause and guide you towards the correct path. You know that their love and affections are genuine. They will correct you, but you have to keep in mind that they have your best interest.

Unhealthy soul ties are the opposite. These relationships are manipulative and can be physically draining. You try to leave and move on, yet they always find a way to make you reconsider as if what you’re doing is wrong. Another way a soul tie becomes unhealthy is through fueling hate instead of love and understanding. Instead of helping you be a better person, these bonds encourage you to stand your ground because it benefits their agenda.

How to Break Soul Ties?

Through continuous prayers

There is no perfect checklist or steps to breaking soul ties; each relationship is different. So, before anything else, our first step should be to ask for God’s guidance and strength to break the soul tie. We are only human; emotions and familiarity easily sway us. Alone, we do not have the power to turn away from memories and habits we’ve grown to like and be comfortable with when we were in a relationship.

Asking God for guidance and healing does not guarantee instant results; everything is a process. Let God fill the parts of your life that you allowed others to do because you are convinced it was the right choice. It will be painful to admit, but think of how much more fulfilled you will be once you trust God.

Through asking forgiveness

We have to come to a point where we stop pointing fingers, let it all go, and allow ourselves to move forward. But before we can do that, we have to ask for forgiveness for all the hurt and anger we have caused the other person. No one is perfect; thus, no relationship is perfect. Forgive yourself of the blame and shortcomings; what’s important is what we learn from the past.

Through forgiving the other party

I believe that one sure way to move on from a relationship is through forgiving the other person for the pain and stress you’ve experienced. It can be painful; sometimes, you think it’s unfair and that they don’t deserve it. But keeping that anger and fuel would do us more harm than good.

If you really cannot find it in yourself to forgive them, ask God to teach you how. Ask for God’s patience and let His teachings remind you God loves us all despite our inequities. Despite all the times we fall short and think about ourselves, God is always ready to receive us back in His loving arms when we ask for forgiveness. Once you’ve made peace with that thought, you’ll see that it’ll be easier to forgive other people.

Through physically distancing yourself from them

One of the best ways to forget about another person is to distance yourself from them. Say goodbye and release yourself from that relationship. It would be difficult at first, especially when you’re already used to their presence but always think of the outcome.

This step becomes easier once you’ve done the first three steps. Any emotional baggage and unnecessary longing would make it hard for you to move on and get used to their absence. Release yourself from the ties and baggage that came from that relationship. Try not to entertain the what-ifs and look forward to things you can focus on more instead.

Understand that God makes you whole, not your Soul Tie

One of the many reasons soul ties become unhealthy and ungodly is that we lose track of who truly completes us. No other person, no matter how in sync you two are, is made to make us whole; only God can and will satisfy us.

Remember, the euphoria in that other person’s presence is just temporary. The contentment we gain from placing God in the center of our everything leaps and bounds better.

In Summary

Soul ties can be very uplifting when they are mutual, healthy, and godly. Relationships such as these can encourage, guide, and transform a person into the best version of themselves. Religious soul ties are also a big help through our spiritual journey.

But, not all strong connections are good for us. We should be vigilant of people that would be bad for us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. There will be those who only want to manipulate us for their gain; even the Bible has warned us about them. Once you see signs of an unhealthy soul tie, cut the bond and move on from the relationship.

If you find yourself in a healthy soul tie, be a blessing to them as much as they have to you. Help them conquer their fears. Be their support and warn them of the possible harm that comes their way.

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Alex is a family man and entrepreneur based in Los Angeles. His passion is to serve the global Church and bring people of diverse backgrounds together to learn & grow.

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