Sexual Soul Ties: What It Really Means

Sexual soul ties are a deep mental and emotional connection you feel towards the person you are physically intimate with.

A soul tie is a deep emotional connection that binds two people together, usually after sexual intimacy. As harmless as we may think casual sex is, it isn’t. Because unknowingly, you may have already created multiple sexual soul ties with all your past partners. This deep connection you’ve formed with your partners has more negative effects on you than positive ones. But don’t worry; there’s a solution, and here’s how you can break free from all of that.

What are Sexual Soul Ties?

When two individuals come together in sexual intimacy, a sexual soul tie is formed. A sexual soul tie is a deep mental and emotional connection you feel towards the person you are physically intimate with. The more sexually involved with the other, the deeper and more robust your bond gets.

Are soul ties only formed through sex?

Soul ties can be formed even without sexual intimacy; however, they are formed quicker through sex. When an individual is physically involved with another, we also unconsciously create an emotional bond with the other person. Sexual soul ties are harder to detect at the start of the relationship because it is mistaken for good compatibility.

Are there problems with sex being “just sex”?

Sex will never be ‘just sex’, contrary to most beliefs. God did not intend sexual intimacy for procreation but for a joyful and intimate experience between partners. According to Genesis 2:24, the husband unites with his wife and becomes one flesh. This can pertain to physical intimacy between spouses, that within their relationship, their hearts and souls intertwine and become one. So whatever it is, one is feeling, and the other is also affected.

What does the Bible say about Sexual Soul Ties?

1 Corinthians 6:18-20

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

Hebrews 13:4

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”

1 Corinthians 7:1-3

“Now for the matters, you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality occurs, each man should have sexual relations with his wife and each woman with her husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and the wife to her husband.”

1 Corinthians 6:13

“You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.”

Ephesians 5:3

“But among you, there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, impurity, or greed because these are improper for God’s holy people.”

What are the Symptoms of a Sexual Soul Tie?

Intensified sexual exchanges, yet you feel sad and lonely after.

Because of the bond, sexual intimacy will feel more intense and pleasurable for both individuals. However, you will feel sad and lonely after the act. This becomes an endless cycle because instead of finding out why you suddenly feel miserable, you’d rather chase after the sexual high. Many people find it hard to break a sexual soul tie because it’s harder to break free from something when you’re already addicted to the feeling.

You constantly seek sexual intimacy with the other.

It’s almost like an addiction; naturally, we turn away from things and people that make us miserable. But since the sexual partner also pleases us, the wrong side of the relationship is often overlooked in favor of sexual intimacy. People think that there is such a thing as casual sex when there’s no such thing in reality. 

You become overly attached to the other.

The more time you invest in a sexual relationship, the more attached you are to the other. Dr. Daniel Amen, a psychiatrist, researcher, and author explains that during sex, the brain releases hormones that promote limbic and emotional bonding. Aside from survival instinct, the limbic system is also responsible for our emotional well-being. Casual sex bonds two individuals physically and unknowingly connect them on a deep, emotional level. 

How to Break Free from Sexual Soul Ties?

Repent and turn away from the relationship

As mentioned in 1 Corinthians 6:18, repent and turn away from a relationship that celebrates sexual immorality. Along with repentance, we should also turn away from habits and routines that brought us the sexual soul tie. Get rid of everything that will remind you of this person; delete all the pictures and messages, and throw away all the gifts they gave you. Help yourself not to make the same mistake and move forward with your life.

Confess and ask for God’s forgiveness

After you have released yourself from the relationship, confess and ask for God’s forgiveness. Confessing our sins to God further helps with our healing, as will opening up about it with a close Christian friend or mentor (James 5:16). Admitting to a close friend or mentor will also help us progress and prevent falling back into old habits.

Renounce and break the sexual soul tie

Declaring to yourself and others that you no longer agree with the sexual soul tie is the next step to breaking the connection. When renouncing the sexual soul tie, you pray and declare that the relationship is broken in the name of Jesus. In doing so, you acknowledge that the soul ties no longer hold you in its tight grip.  

Pray and declare out loud that the sexual soul tie is broken

Praying out loud that the sexual soul tie is broken is essential. There is incredible power when we pray out loud; it shows that we are confident in the power of the Holy Spirit. It is true; trying to break a soul tie on our own is futile. A sexual soul tie isn’t only a physical bond, but it is also a spiritual one. So, you can only break the bond with the power of the Holy Spirit and God’s grace. 

In Summary

Our actions and decisions have consequences, no matter how innocent we think they may be. One of the dangers of choosing pleasure over what’s right is that we become blindsided by the harm the relationship inflicts on us. 

Sexual soul ties are the easiest to form, yet they are the hardest to break free from. So once you feel any of the symptoms, quickly step away from the relationship and run back to God. Break free from sexual immorality because, believe it or not, you can live without that person in your life. All the pleasures of this world are temporary, but God’s love is eternal and unconditional.